I recently did a study on Anger Management because it is an emotion that is often pushed down or has become a normal emotion for some to have. What is most important is to look at yourself and how you respond to anger and to understand the physical effects on the body. How is your body when you get angry?
Most of the time you can see when someone is angry. There are times when it is hard to tell because some people spend so much time masking their emotions; it is hard to tell what they are feeling. Sometimes it is hard for them to recognize or process their own feelings for themselves. With some people their anger comes out as numbness. Which can be frustrating for another person in the relationship, especially if it is followed by avoidance.
In everybody there is not the same response. Some people get a chemical response with a surge of adrenaline and some people will get a non-adrenaline response. I have witnessed that it could be a completely different response with a person. If you are in the presence of a person you don’t have a surge of anger but if you're at a distance you do have a surge of anger.
A lot of times anger has a root of hurt and pain attached to it. Then heated discussions come up and that is the only way the truth comes out. Sometimes results in someone walking away angry.
Another type of anger is passive aggressive anger. When someone gets offended by something you said or the person will avoid direct and clear communication, feigning compliance with requests, sarcasm and backhanded compliments. They may display the same negative behavior to make you upset. This can be a very destructive behavior for both people in the relationship.
At the end of the day it is not worth it to stay upset at anyone. Time is precious! Anger has such a strong effect on the body of teeth grinding, temperature flushing that throws off your body temperature. It can do internal damage to your organs and raise your blood pressure. Everything is connected. Let love be the emotion that you search for and not anger.
Proverbs 19:11 ~ A person's wisdom yields patience; it is to one's glory to overlook an offense.
Ephesians 4:26 ~ Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:
Proverbs 15:1 ~ soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.
